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Studies are suggesting what many of us have known for years; a horse can be our most trusted, loyal companion. However, just like the relationships we develop with our own friends, it rarely happens overnight.
By cultivating genuine love and passion for your horse(s), and then channelling it into certain areas you can build an effective bond quickly between you and your horse. Just remember, your horse is not stupid and will not be tricked into caring, but by showing a mutual respect to each other you can grow a bond that lasts a lifetime.
Straight away there are some basics that you must know in order to gain the respect of, and then bond with, your horse. These basics are the foundations that you build the relationship with your horse upon.
As it is a ‘herd animal’ your horse is innately drawn towards a group dynamic, which involves a leadership hierarchy. Once you and your horse are together, think of it as a two person herd, with your horse assessing where you stand within the group, if it doesn’t see you as its leader, then it will not heed what you say. This is why you need to establish yourself as a leader right away.
Now this doesn’t mean establishing dominance through intimidation or fear, that is not the way to build a bond with your horse. Rather you should show your horse that you are capable of being in-charge and keeping it safe all whilst making a calm horse your priority.
For those who are worried that caring about their horse might not be enough reassurance is at hand! Research has suggested that just spending time with your horse helps form a bond between you. Going to see your horse and going to sit with your horse, whether in open air or in the stables, tells him/her that you want to be around them for things other than riding and training. It’s a natural behaviour and is appreciated by the horse as it shows you want to be in their company and garners a positive response from the horse. There is no time limit just spend as much time as you are able to in this situation with your horse – there is no such thing as spending too much time with them (at least not from the horses perspective!).
If you ever think that you are being boring, just remember that peace and quiet are two of a horse’s favourite things. By being there but still letting the horse relax you are actually giving the horse a real treat.
Put simply, ‘groundwork’ consists of exercises you do with your horse where your feet never have to leave the ground. It’s a popular, essential training and bonding technique which lets you and your horse become close initially without the need for riding.
Groundwork is usually made up of:
Leading will show you how strong the bond between you and your horse has become and how far you have still to go. For example, if you drop the reins and your horse walks away from you as quickly as their legs will carry them, then you aren’t quite there yet! If your horse lingers around you, you can see that the bond is progressing well. A popular way of leading and teaching lunges is via the long leading method.
Long leading
This is the process of giving your horse more rein to move freely on its own, whilst you still retain overall control. Think of it as how a driving instructor teaches a pupil, they instruct, but the learner drives the car themselves, until a mistake is made and the instructor can correct it. This allows your horse to become more confident in their learning and leaves them more relaxed and calm. It’s from here that you can begin to use other methods such as circle work.
Circle work helps you to calm down a nervous horse or will show a dominant horse that you are the one in charge. The basic method with circle work is to stand central and then encourage your horse to walk around you circularly. Calm horses bond faster, so by employing methods such as circle work (a calming influence on your horse), you are helping speed up the bonding process.
Most horses love to being groomed; it shows them that you care and it is a very relaxing process. The tactile nature of grooming encourages a closeness between rider and horse which when developed becomes the lifelong connection often seen in riding partnerships. Some horses may not like being groomed, especially if they display any of the following signs of distress:
If any of the above are displayed in your horse whilst grooming, it could be that they are thin skinned, which will require different equipment and attitude. It is also important that you learn to recognise where a horses sensitive/ticklish areas are, as extra care should be taken when grooming these areas. If a gentler approach is required, it is a good idea to give a soft bristled finishing brush a try, as it is designed to be less intensive on the skin of a horse.
When it comes down to the act of grooming, the first rule is to ensure that you have good quality grooming equipment and a willingness to be thorough. It’s OK to do it at your own speed and to take your time just be sure you are thorough.
See grooming in action with our “how to” video below, showing you step by step each part of grooming.
With the basics covered, you will be well on the way to having a solid bond with your horse without even trying these. However, remembering and trying out the following advice can help supplement the previous advice and strengthen your success.
Natural horsemanship is an alternative approach to the more out-dated, pain based training methods. Its primary goal is to train and bond with a horse using a ‘firm but fair’ mentality, something which has been shown to attract the respect and fondness from a horse quickly.
There are a few things to consider when on the subject of natural horsemanship:
Sometimes a bond doesn’t come easily. Each horse has a different personality and reacts differently to each bonding tactic. Signs of a problem include:
If you are struggling to bond with your horse then re-read the article and ask yourself some honest questions like:
If the answer to any of these questions is ‘no’, then maybe it’s time to put the interests of the horse first and move on. However, if you can honestly say that you do have the time and the love to form a bond then redouble your efforts, be stronger in your leadership training and make the effort to spend more time with your horse. It really isn’t rocket science it’s just a commitment between you and your horse, and the results can be very satisfying indeed!
So what are you waiting for?! Get out there and try these tips today and be sure to visit our store should you need any products - the stable-yard is a good place to start for this kind of thing!